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Friday, January 30, 2015


Pregnancy Over 40, Mothers Deserve More Respect

I've read so many advantages to having a baby over the age of 40.
Not only are you more mature, financially stable, but you are more likely to have happier and smarter kids.  Here's an article that gives a well rounded perspective of pregnancy over 40. They address both the positive and some of the challenging aspects that midlife or past midlife mothers face:

Among the famous women who had children long after their nubile years are Halle Berry (daughter at age 41), Mariah Carey (twins at age 41), Jane Seymour (twins at age 44), Marcia Cross (twins at age 44), Christie Brinkley (daughter at age 44), Susan Sarandon (son at age 45), Holly Hunter (twins at age 47) and Geena Davis (twins at age 48).


Other front-page births were Cheryl Tiegs’ twins at age 52 (via a surrogate), Joan Lunden’s two sets of twins (at ages 52 and 54, with a surrogate), and Elizabeth Edwards, who had unspecified fertility treatments to have a daughter at age 48 and a son at 50.

But hundreds of thousands of women have late-in-life childbirths that do not make the tabloids. In 2009, more than 105,000 babies were born to women ages 40 to 44, and almost 8,000 more were born to women ages 45 to 54. More than half of these children were first- or second-borns.

Many of these births, especially after age 45, involve egg donation, a scary subject for many women, said Marna Gatlin, who struggled with infertility for more than 15 years before having a child via egg donation.

When Ms. Gatlin and her husband went through the donation process 11 years ago, “it was so in the closet, it was deemed as something out of ‘Star Trek.’ Very science fiction.”

Wednesday, January 28, 2015


The Sly Masquerader - Thyroid Disease During Pregnancy
By Dr. Michele Brown OBGYN

A 26 year old, newly-pregnant woman sits on the exam table in her obstetrician's office. She is excited about her pregnancy and does not want to complain about her nausea, vomiting, weight loss, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, and fatigue. The obstetrician can tell just by looking at her that she seems to be suffering the normal symptoms of pregnancy and is not overly worried. After all, nausea and vomiting occur in 50-80% of all pregnant women, especially between the 5th and 13th week. The doctor reassures the patient that this is normal, and encourages her to hydrate and rest. Sometimes the physician will suggest a medication, or a supplement, to reduce the symptoms of nausea and vomiting.
Is it possible that this woman is experiencing something more severe than the normal, early pregnancy symptoms?
One of the great masqueraders for pregnant women is thyroid disease. Many of the symptoms that women experience in the early stages of pregnancy are the exact symptoms that occur with thyroid problems. Women will commonly experience fatigue, weight gain, constipation, insomnia, and lethargy. Health care providers will often reassure patients that this is normal and these symptoms are due to the hormonal and physiological changes that one expects with the early stages of a healthy pregnancy. However, one must be on the alert that these same symptoms could be representative of a much more serious underlying problem; one that could have major, negative ramifications on the pregnancy and the newborn infant. Left undiagnosed and untreated, hypothyroidism (low thyroid hormone) could result in serious, high-risk conditions during the pregnancy. Prematurity, preeclampsia, placental separation (abruption), and/or serious consequences in the child such as congenital cretinism (mental retardation, deafness, muteness).



This weeks article will focus only on hy-PER-thyroidism (when you have too much thyroid hormone.)
Next week we will review hyp-O-thyroidism. (when you have too little thyroid hormone) and its effects on pregnancy.
Who should get screened for thyroid disease in pregnancy?
The current American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology guidelines state that thyroid functions should be checked only in women with a personal history of thyroid disease or symptoms of thyroid disease. It is NOT universally recommended to test all pregnant women even though there are cases of women who have disease that do not have symptoms (subclinical cases).
How does maternal thyroid hormone effect the fetus?
The fetal brain is completely dependent on maternal thyroid hormone until about 12 weeks gestation. At that time, the fetus is able to manufacture its own thyroid hormone in conjunction with the maternal hormone that crosses the placenta. Diminished levels of thyroid hormone in the mother impair fetal brain development. Elevated levels can also cross the placenta and cause excessive production in the fetus. (Graves disease.)
What is hyperthyroidism?
The thyroid is an endocrine gland located in the neck that controls metabolism. It receives a message (TSH) from an area in the brain called the pituitary which releases thyroid hormone (T4).
When the gland produces more hormone than it is supposed to, hyperthyroidism is diagnosed (elevated thyroid hormone T4 and low TSH.) This can occur in about.2% of all pregnancies. The most common form of the disease is Graves disease where certain antibodies are made by the body that stimulate thyroid hormone production. Other causes can be multinodular goiter, subacute thyroiditis, an extra thyroid source of hormone production (certain tumors of the ovary or pituitary), thyroid adenoma.
What are the symptoms of hyperthyroidism?
  • nervousness
  • tremors
  • tachycardia
  • frequent stool
  • excessive sweating
  • heat intolerance
  • weight loss
  • goiter
  • insomnia
  • palpitations
  • hypertension
  • eye changes-lagging of the eyelid and retraction of the eye lid
What are the risks to the mother and the fetus if hyperthyroidism is left untreated?
If left untreated, hyperthyroid can cause:
  • preterm delivery
  • severe preeclampsia
  • heart failure
  • fetal loss
  • low birth weight infants
  • stillbirth
  • fetal hyperthyroidism
How do you treat hyperthyroidism in the mother?
A classification of drugs called thioamides are used to treat hyperthyroidism.
  • PTU
  • methimazole
These drugs prevent the manufacture of the thyroid hormone by preventing a needed substrate iodine from attaching to the thyroid molecule and it also blocks the the manufacture of of another active form of the hormone T3.
These drugs do cross the placenta and can effect the fetal thyroid, although it is generally transient. Generally, these drugs are safe to use in pregnancy but rare side effects of the drug can include fever, sore throat, hepatitis, rash, nausea, loss of taste and smell, loss of appetite and a very serious and rare side effect called agranulocytosis (less than 1%) which is an abnormal condition of the blood characterized by a severe reduction of white blood cells (fever, prostration and bleeding ulcers of rectum, mouth, and vagina.)
Infants must be observed carefully after birth with mothers on antithyroid medication since newborns have been known to have neonatal hypothyroidism and goiter in mothers who have been treated. Babies are ultrasounded during pregnancy looking for fetal goiter and growth problems which can present problems at delivery due to the hyperextension of the neck.
It is generally considered safe to breast feed on these medications.
Other drugs used to treat hyperthyroidism are beta-blockers (propranolol) which act to reduce the rapid heart rate that can occur. Side effects from this drug can include growth retardation in the fetus, fetal bradycardia (slowed heart rate) and hypoglycemia in the infant (low blood sugar).
Radioactive iodine is never used in pregnancy since it can ablate the fetal thyroid. A patient was treated with radioactive iodine prior to becoming pregnant, should avoid becoming pregnant for at least 4 months. If all medications fail, or allergy to the medications exist, thyroidectomy, or surgical excision of the thyroid is recommended.
What is subclinical hyperthyroidism?
In about 1.7% of women there are asymptomatic women with normal thyroid hormone but a low TSH. This condition generally has been found to have no effect on the pregnancy since it is the maternal T4 level that is critical for fetal brain development, regardless of what the TSH level is. However, these women should be observed for osteoporosis, cardiovascular morbidity and progression to overt disease or thyroid failure in the future.
What is thyroid storm?
Thyroid storm is an acute obstetrical emergency that occurs in about 10% of women with hyperthyroidism. Symptoms include a change in mental status, seizures, nausea, diarrhea, and cardiac arrythmias. Patients are placed in the intensive care unit for constant monitoring and observation since there is a high risk of maternal heart failure. Thyroid storm can be precipitated by an acute surgical emergency, infection, diabetes. anesthesia, and noncompliance with thyroid medications. In addition to the usual treatment of hyperthyroidism as described above, steroids are commonly given.
Can thyroid disease present itself right after delivery?
About 6 to 9% of women with no history of thyroid disease can present with disease after delivery, generally within the first year postpartum. This is common in women that have previously known thyroid antibodies that are not activated until after the delivery, or women with a strong family history of diabetes or other autoimmune disorders. Most women have transient hyperthyroidism which then converts to hypothyroidism requiring treatment. About 77% of women will completely recover but 30% will continue with thyroid disease permanently. Many women that recover will develop this disorder again with subsequent pregnancies.
Because of the close similarity of symptoms that occur with a normal early pregnancy, be sure to ask your health care providers if you should be screened for thyroid disease. Discovery and correction of this condition can have beneficial ramifications to ensure a happy, healthy mother and baby. As stated in many previous articles, pregnancy can be the crystal ball of future medical conditions and by being vigilant, pregnancy can help a woman avoid diseases and conditions from surfacing later in life.

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Monday, January 26, 2015


 If you love apples and you have a family history of asthma, this will be good news.  There is some evidence that apples eaten during pregnancy may protect your offspring from asthma.  in addition, consuming fish can help with another allergy related condition.  Read more:

 (HealthDay News) -- An apple a day while you're pregnant may indeed keep the doctor away. But the real beneficiary could be your unborn child.
Recent research suggests that when moms-to-be eat apples during pregnancy, their offspring have lower rates of asthma.
And, mothers who consume fish during pregnancy may lower their child's risk of developing the allergic skin condition called eczema.
"There are influences that occur in utero that can have lasting impact," said Dr. Jennifer Appleyard, chief of allergy and immunology at St. John Hospital and Medical Center in Detroit. "More and more, we're finding influences for later health develop earlier than we anticipated." 


Saturday, January 24, 2015


Can You Ovulate While Breastfeeding?

Many women wonder if they can get pregnant while breastfeeding.
I should mention that even though menstrual cycles typically stop or become irregular when nursing, it should not be considered a contraceptive.  I know a number of women who got pregnant while breastfeeding.

 Here is an excellent article which explains in detail how the menstrual cycle may change while breastfeeding:


“Most nonlactating women resume menses within 4 to 6 weeks of delivery, but about one-third of the first cycles are anovulatory, and a high proportion of first ovulatory cycles have a deficient corpus luteum that secretes sub-normal amounts of steroids. In the second and third menstural cycles, 15% are anovulatory and 25% of ovulatory cycles have luteal-phase defects…Lactation, or breastfeeding, further extends the period of infertility and despresses ovarian function. Plasma levels of FSH return to normal follicular phase values by 4 to 8 weeks postpartum in breastfeeding women. In contrast, pulsatile LH stimulation is depressed…in the majority of lactating women throughout most of the period of lactational amenorrhea.” [1]

In other words, after not menstruating for so many months, it takes the body a few tries to get the delicate hormone balance back up to speed again. The first few cycles either don’t release an egg, or if an egg is released, the corpus luteum, which is responsible for secreting enough progesterone to maintain the pregnancy until the placenta can take over, isn’t quite up to the task. This is called a luteal phase defect, and it’s a very common cause of early miscarriages. In women who are breastfeeding, the process of returning to normal ovarian cycles takes even longer


Thursday, January 22, 2015


Here are some facts about massage during pregnancy.  Many women and massage therapists are reluctant to have a massage for fear that it may trigger a miscarriage, however, this article should help clear up some the the confusion:

Myths about Pregnancy Massage

By Leon Pierre Potgieter

1) Massage during the first trimester
Some massage practitioners refuse to give massage during the first trimester as this is when most miscarriages occur. This is merely because they do not want to be associated with this event should it happen. However, there is no evidence that massage can lead to a miscarriage and massage is not contraindicated during the first trimester. In fact, massage at this time is entirely necessary since it supports a woman as she negotiates the physical, emotional and spiritual changes of her pregnancy. Her potential is maturing into a powerful new role and identity
2) Massage on the legs during pregnancy
Deep vein thrombosis in the legs only occurs in 15 out of 10 000 pregnant women (data from live births in Olmsted County between 1966 and 1995). Of these 12 will have clear signs of a possible blood clot, leaving 3 out 10 000 pregnant women with an undiagnosed blood clot. Despite these low figures, some massage practitioners indicate that massage work on the inner leg is not advisable as it might dislodge an undiagnosed clot. Keeping in mind that massage improves blood flow and thus reduces the risk of a blood clot forming, refusing to give a competent massage on the legs potentially exposes 9997 out of 10 000 pregnant women to unnecessary risk.


A more realistic approach is to give a competent massage while checking for any signs and symptoms of a possible blood clot. The simplistic solution of prohibiting deep massage or massage altogether on the inner legs appears to be more prevalent in countries where litigation is high and seems to be based on misunderstanding and fear rather than on existing evidence-based practice for the following reasons:
  • In spite of this exaggerated emphasis on blood clots, no reliable method is given to assess whether a blood clot is present so there is no good reason to either proceed with or stop the massage. Homan's test is still routinely taught in massage schools to test for deep vein thrombosis even though it is unreliable and is no longer used, other clinical tests being used in its place.
  • Massage helps prevent clots from forming by preventing a build up of stagnant blood in the legs. It is very necessary during pregnancy as there is stronger tendency for blood to clot during pregnancy.
  • Pregnant women who have been put on bed rest are at greater risk of developing blood clots as their inactivity causes blood to pool in the legs. They are advised to exercise their legs by pointing the foot up and down. This creates a strong pumping action in the calves which helps keep blood flowing through the legs. This has a more powerful effect than massage or work on pressure points. If massage is considered risky, then standard hospital care is even riskier.
  • The Spleen, Liver and Kidney meridians of Traditional Chinese Medicine play an important role in health, especially during pregnancy. As they run through the inner legs, work on pressure points in the legs can be extremely beneficial. In particular, it substantially reduces risk in diabetic mothers when their diabetes is a Spleen and Kidney Yang Deficiency type diabetes (here there may not be the excessive thirst, hunger, urination or heat normally associated with diabetes but there is increased risk of incompetent cervix, placenta praevia and detached placenta). Giving only a light, superficial leg massage in this case may expose the mother to far greater risk than a massage of normal, firmer pressure.

3) The use of a belly hole in the massage table
This is done to allow the mother to lie face down without compressing her stomach during a massage therapy session. However, as her stomach is now not correctly supported, her lower back and pelvis are placed under stress and her uterine ligaments are stretched. These are both common causes of pain during pregnancy. The pressure of the hole's edges on the abdomen also cuts down blood supply to the abdomen.
4) Avoiding lying the back during pregnancy
This ignores that a pregnant women is often positioned on the back for long periods during birth, a common hospital procedure. Only avoid lying on the back in a massage or in general if there is 1) a known threat of blood clots forming in the legs, 2) supine hypotension or 3) lower back pain or pain due to sacroiliac or iliosacral dysfunction.
5) Lying only on the left hand side during pregnancy
It is assumed that lying on the right side will put slight pressure on the inferior vena cava, a large vein carrying blood from the legs and pelvis to the heart. However, although the inferior vena cava lies to the right hand border of the spine, it is questionable if lying on the right hand side can slow down blood flow through this vein. Also, lying on the left hand side puts pressure on the heart and stomach so they may not function at optimum efficiency.
6) The use of contraindicated pressure points
Massage schools teach some pressure points are not to be used during pregnancy as they might induce labour. However they may be used if there is a good reason to use them. If massage could induce labour, abortion clinics would use massage on these points instead of costly medical interventions. Pressure on these points can only induce labour at the end of term and then it is still difficult to do this.
All pregnant women can benefit from pregnancy massage. If at any time during the massage you experience discomfort, tell your therapist immediately.

For information on Pregnancy Massage visit Massage Wisdom
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Tuesday, January 20, 2015


Here is another reason to cut junk food out of your diet if you are trying to conceive or already pregnant.  Women who ate healthy diets were 50% more likely to have a full term birth than women who at junk food or food high in sugar and fat.  If you are trying to conceive, this is important because a healthy diet can make conception more likely as many fruits and vegetables can help regulate hormones and, according to the study below, it can help prevent pre-term birth:

The results, published in The Journal of Nutrition, show that women who consistently ate a diet high in protein and fruit prior to becoming pregnant were less likely to have a preterm birth, while those who consistently ate high fat and sugar foods and takeaway were about 50% more likely to have a preterm birth.
"Preterm birth is a leading cause of infant disease and death and occurs in approximately one in 10 pregnancies globally. Anything we can do to better understand the conditions that lead to preterm birth will be important in helping to improve survival and long-term health outcomes for children," says the lead author of the paper, Dr Jessica Grieger, Postdoctoral Research Fellow with the Robinson Research Institute, based at the Lyell McEwin Hospital

Sunday, January 18, 2015


What You Should Know About Natural Birth

Guest Post By Wendy C Staas

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary natural child-birth is

"a system of managing childbirth in which the mother receives preparatory education in order to remain conscious during and help in delivery with minimal or no use of drugs or anesthetics"

Natural Child birth is not something to be afraid of. It is a wonderful experience and can happen in three places. Home, a birth center and the hospital.
It was not until the 1900's that women started to give birth in the hospital, up until that point women gave birth at home.The website Midwifery has articles that can help anyone considering giving birth at home. Specifically 'The Home birth Choice' talks about the specifics about why consider home birth, who attends, midwifery, prenatal visits and how the midwife handles complications.

"Women may prefer a home birth over a hospital birth for a variety of reasons, including a desire for a low-intervention birth in a familiar environment surrounded by family and friends, and cultural or religious concerns." According to the Center of Disease Control.

Most women in the United States choose to give birth in a hospital. However, it has its challenges. Having an unmedicated birth in a hospital is difficult if you do not do your research. You must choose the right obstetrician with a low intervention and cesarean rate. He/ she must also not be overly concerned should your baby go over the due date. It is not out of the ordinary for a baby to go to the 42nd week because obstetricians base the date upon your menstrual cycle and not conception date.
It is also important to research different hospitals, tour the hospital and check to see how 'home-like' the delivery rooms are, as well as gather cesarean and intervention statistics. When you tour hospitals, you want to get their policies on allowing skin-on-skin contact with your baby immediately after birth and do they allow the baby to room-in with the mother? These experiences are something that a mother birthing at home get to experience. The baby bonds more quickly and breastfeeding is easier.


Giving birth in a birth center allows the woman to have home birth like experience in an environment similar to a hospital. Women who are not comfortable having a home birth and do not want the stress of birthing in a hospital typically choose a birth center if one is available in their area. Also, it is a great way to get a home birth experience in states where having a home birth is illegal.
How to prepare for a natural birth?
Having a drug free birth is not something a woman goes into saying "I will try it". That is as foolish as waking up one day and saying "Today I am going to run a marathon", except you do not have the proper running shoes and you have never run a day in your life.
First, decide where you want to give birth. Who do you want to deliver your baby and interview many professionals explaining to them that you want a drug-free birth and are assembling your team to help you make this goal.
Then you need to research what birth classes are available (not classes at the hospital, they do not adequately prepare you for a drug free birth). There are three well-known birth teaching methods. Lamaze, The Bradley Method, Hypnobabies. Each have a website and a way for you to find an educator near you.
Next you want to interview and hire a doula. A doula is a professional that comes along side you and your partner/ husband to guide you through labor and birth. She does not replace the partner/ husband, but assists them.
A doula also is a consistent support for the laboring mother. When giving birth in a hospital, the nurses come and go to aid other patients and the obstetrician may call in for updates, but likely only shows up to catch the baby. There is not continual support for the mother, which is why a doula is so important.
A doula also assists the mother with relaxation techniques and assists in assuring the mother along the way. Should a situation arise where information in need to make a decision, the doula will help the laboring mother and partner/husband get all the questions answered by the medical staff. She does not in any way make decisions for or talk to the medical staff on their behalf.
A doula meets with you several times before the due date, assists in the labor/ delivery, helps breastfeeding and visits the mother postpartum to go over how the delivery went and helps the mother in any way she may need. She is an asset to your birth team and will support how you want to give birth.
Finally you need to practice relaxing. This cannot be stressed strongly enough. Relaxation is the key to your body opening up and allowing the baby to descend and be born. Spend at least an hour every day listening to relaxing music, practicing making your entire body limp. Then from your toes to your head, take each area tense it up and release. This helps you learn that you do have control over your body and that you can relax. Relaxation is the key to successful drug free birth.
Remember, giving birth and labor is not pains of suffering. Contractions are surges. The pains that you experience are manageable, it just takes relaxation and concentration (and as little distractions as possible). It takes an extreme amount of mental control to realize that with each passing surge you get closer to meeting your sweet baby. You can do it, however preparation is not only recommended, but necessary.
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Thursday, January 15, 2015


I experienced some light cramping with all of my pregnancies even my successful one.  In very early pregnancy, some women may think that the cramps are associated with getting their period, but you should be careful about taking medications like ibuprofen since some of these may be associated with miscarriage.
Some of the causes of cramping may include:
  • Implantation:  this can cause a feeling of cramping as the egg implants in the uterus.  It is amazing that something so microscopic can cause so many changes.  I also had implantation spotting with almost all of my pregnancies.  Although it is hard to know exactly what causes the spotting (especially since I miscarried many times), I am assuming it was from the implantation.  Again, many women may mistake this for their period starting, so I would be careful about not taking pain relievers.


  •  Cramping may also be caused by the uterus expanding - the muscles and ligaments need to stretch to support the pregnancy.  In my case, I always felt rather swollen and tender in my pelvic area.  My bladder felt full quite a bit as well.  I'm sure the uterus gets larger even in early pregnancy because the lining is thicker to support the growing embryo.  I also had cramping when I made sudden movements, sneezed or changed certain positions.
  • Cramping can also be caused by round ligament stretching later in pregnancy.  Although in my case, this felt more like a stretched sharp muscle pain rather than a cramp.
I found quite a bit of relief by laying on my left side with a hot water bottle.  Make sure the water isn't too hot.  Also, drink plenty of water to eliminate constipation which can add to cramping.   Most cramping, if mild, is perfectly normal, however if your cramping is severe or is associated with bleeding (heavier than spotting), of course, you should talk with your doctor.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015


If you're a big reader/researcher like I am, and you are trying to conceive or already pregnant over the age over 40 the amount of negative information about birth defects and pregnancy complications can be overwhelming.  The problem with most of these articles is that they do not put things into perspective.  Yes there are more complications for older women, but what we're not told is that the rate of birth defects and complications isn't THAT MUCH greater than younger women.

This new page on my website explains more:


Sunday, January 11, 2015


Vibrant Birth - Vibrant Life: The Origins of Trauma At Birth

Guest Post By Graeme Dinnenand, Phylipa Dinnen

It is generally understood that the birth process can be difficult and traumatic for the baby. Here we will go into more detail about the different patterns which, if left unhealed, become our normal, distorted, behaviour as we grow up.
From the time we are conceived we are carrying a genetic inheritance of the distorted ancestral patterns of the father and the mother. Each generation has an opportunity to transform these patterns, but only if they are aware. Most people are not alert to this possibility and believe these patterns simply to be a part of their nature. In Human Design terms, genetically, the heavy influence of Mars carries an energy from the father that needs to be transformed. It is only through this transformation that we can live out who we really are, following our inner truth.
Each one of us has come with work to do in this lifetime, but unless we find a level of awareness, growth and healing while we are here, we may depart without any knowledge of transformation and our true potential. Every cell in the body vibrates at a frequency and if we can raise the frequency of our cells then we can come into resonance with the planet and our purpose here. Although we are each born with a particular genetic pattern there are always possibilities for raising the frequency of that pattern so we live it out correctly instead of living a life of struggle when we are not in harmony. When we are living our true genetic role we find it is what we are here to do, what we are passionate about, what interests us most; and by doing our own work, we are raising the overall frequency of the planet.


Some significant patterns that we carry are just who we believe ourselves to be. These need to be transformed before we can truly be correct and self-realised.
1. Mother's need?

Ideally, all babies should be invited by both parents. When one parent is not fulfilled by the partnership one solution is to fill the gap with a baby to love. This is never an answer and places a huge burden on the baby that is essentially conceived and born to help repair the parent's relationship. Any child with this pattern will always seek the security of a solid foundation in their life. This could take the form of marrying someone who needs someone to love and also offers a very solid foundation.
2. Not recognised?

About 70% of births start as twin births. The mother subconsciously identifies with one particular foetus even if two tiny foetuses are present. If one of the developing foetuses leaves and the mother has already bonded with that one, the remaining foetus will feel unnoticed. There are two dynamics going on here for the surviving baby; the first one is that it suddenly feels lonely, bereft and unrecognised because of the mother bonding with the other, departed twin. The second is that the surviving twin becomes intensely resentful of the departed twin for taking nourishment that the surviving twin needed.
When the child is born, it will project that resentment onto an older or younger sibling. The mother may be surprised to find that it's not the child that she was subconsciously expecting. The baby will feel the lack of recognition that it felt throughout the pregnancy; this pattern will recapitulate with a parent, sibling or partner. If that parent, sibling or partner dies, then it is just projected onto another. There is always someone else who is taking from them - and can't give back (often financially). The truth is that although resources were limited in the womb, they do not have to be limited in the real world.
3. Wanted or Not?

Although many people "find they are pregnant", an unplanned or accidental birth is not a healthy way to conceive a child. A baby needs to be planned and consciously wanted by both parents to come into the correct, nurturing environment. Even if the parents are delighted to find there is a baby on the way, it does not dispel that disconnection of the unaware parents during those first few weeks. Children born with this pattern are often at a friend's house, staying the night, bonding with those parents. They try not to be too demanding and do everything for themselves because they think they have to. It's a survival mechanism for them. They may be children who are put into daycare before nursery school, so that the parents can both work. In later relationships they are never sure of the solidity of the partnership and need constant affirmation of their value to the partner.
4. Lost twin?

Another twin dynamic, although this is one where the two foetuses bond with each other. One twin departs and the other has lost the potential 'best friend'. Once born, this surviving twin bonds with a sibling, a parent, a friend at school, anyone who it perceives it can have the kind of close relationship that it had with its lost twin. They will marry their best friend only to find that the relationship is suffocating for the other, or if they both have the same wound, suffocating for both. They may also see that there is no bond; that initial recognition was just a phase because that other person also had a twin wound. There is always a double bind in a twin dynamic. There is nothing we can do to heal a double bind, but be informed and once aware of the pattern, wait for the miracle, which always appears.
5. Delusion

The true betrayal of the delusion and disconnect patterns is that they are imposed through external intervention. If a couple conceive after a heavy bout of drinking or taking drugs then the "drug affect" becomes imprinted in the baby and often recapitulates at birth by interventions such as C-sections and chemical pain management. It is this wound where the "false memories" issue originates. We remember in the cells of the body what may have happened in the past to our ancestors. We have inherited the pattern and it is our job in this lifetime to heal it rather than find someone to blame for it. Children with this pattern will grow up feeling blamed because they appear to be delusional, through the lack of clarity in the brain. They feel fuzzy headed until they can clear the toxins in the fourth ventricle of the brain (filled with cerebrospinal fluid) where the impact of the drug remains. They can be addicted to alcohol, drugs or other chemical substances until they discover where the pattern originated and can start to work on healing. Cranio-sacral work can help to release the toxicity in the fourth ventricle. Forgiveness for those who have blamed is a key to healing this pattern.
6. Disconnect

Forceps and Caesarian Sections (which also have the chemical aspect) have become very common methods of delivering a baby whether it is necessary or not. Any rough handling by someone pulling a baby out of the womb by its head in a slightly too heavy handed manner can cause immense damage. The tiny skull is still very fragile and both these methods should only be used in a life or death emergency. Male doctors decided to make child birth a medical procedure and initially they secretly used forceps and other tools to "assist" the birth. The resultant pain to the baby is almost impossible to bear, and the baby disconnects from the body in order to survive. So the baby continues to spend the rest of its life in "disconnect" because it cannot be grounded and centred in its body. These are the people who seem to be "on another planet" or "away with the fairies" and drift through life; and they have bouts of intense anger. Nothing can possibly work for them when they are not grounded and centred in the body. We are here to be body oriented people, yet for those who have had a forceps birth, the body is perceived as a dangerous place to be. It continues to invite abuse simply through the aura. There is also a sense of wanting to go home, not being afraid of death, possibly even having had a sense of "the divine" at that moment of disconnect. These people need a great deal of body work and realignment of the cranium to succeed with their lives.
This is just a brief look at what the distortions are. A baby is only in the present moment and believes what happens at the moment of birth is "forever", until someone informs them otherwise when they are able to rationalise. There are much more detailed healing procedures, but to start with we need to identify the patterns.
If a parent can speak to the baby, apologise for what happened, and explain the circumstances "you may not have survived if we had performed this intervention... ", then the emotional trauma around the event can be released.
It is never too late - you can apologise to your 40-year old children about what happened at their birth. It could transform their life.
Author Phylipa Dinnen is a mother of four children a Human Design Professional and a Practitioner of Pre and Peri-Natal Birth Trauma. Together with her husband Graeme they run Resources For Life a natural health business in Chichester, West Sussex.
For more information http://www.resourcesforlife.net

Friday, January 09, 2015


Feng Shui For Baby!  Preparing For Your Special Day - All Your Questions Answered!

Guest post by Fay Chapple
Congratulations!  A new baby is truly a miracle and there is no better way to prepare a baby's room for your new miracle then incorporating Feng Shui!  Creating a space for your baby is a labour of love!
If you have the luxury of plenty of space and choices for the baby's new room then it would be very beneficial if you can avoid the following:
Any room over the garage in not a good choice - Baby needs to sleep over something solid, Any room over a storage area is not a good choice, Any room that is open to excessive noise is not a good choice.


So what would be an ideal location?
o    A quiet room
o    A room with a beautiful view
o    For boys a room in the north and east
o    For girls a room in the south, west or southwest
o    A good flow of energy (nothing blocking your path from the door to the crib!) a good healthy flow of chi will lead to a healthier and happier baby!
What's the most important thing to do first?
o    Quite simply, in Feng Shui the number one thing you can do to prepare a room is to clear the clutter.  Make sure that everything not pertaining to baby is out of the room. Make sure that you repair anything that is broken, replace anything that is missing.  The room should be in very good shape before baby comes home!  Ensure you clean the room with organic healthy toxic free cleaners.
o    When you move in the furniture don't store anything under the crib - again creating clutter!
o    Ensure your clear the space and rid it of any old energies - you are starting with a clean slate.  You can clear your space by burning incense, ring a bell, clapping your hand or opening the windows on a beautiful sunny day for a couple of hours!
What about furniture?
o    As with all Feng Shui the baby's crib should have a view of the door so they are not surprised when someone enters the room.  The bed head (or headboard) should be against a solid wall.
o    Do not place the crib against a wall attached to a bathroom if possible
o    Furniture with rounded edges is your best choice.  If your change table or dresser has sharp corners ensure that none of the corners are pointing directly at baby's head or body.
Are traditional Wall Colours Good?
o    Certainly traditional wall colours are good but if you want to paint the walls in accordance with Feng Shui principles you will need to consult the Feng Shui energy map!  Called the "Bagua"  when you direction which direction your baby's room falls into it will lead you to the colour that is ideal for the sector
o    Do you want to personalize it even further?  Then determine the baby's KUA number and paint it in one of the baby's auspicious colours!
o    Still not sure?  White is the principle colour for Children and Creativity.  You can use white on the walls or white as accents.
What about bright Primary Colours?
o    Bold, bright colours are considered to be to much Yang (aggressive) colours for babies.  Stick with soft, muted and pale Yang colours for optimum health and relaxation including soft yellow, soft greens, pale blues, turquoise and pink!
I was thinking of a jungle theme what do you think?
o    Too much stimulus is just as bad for baby as not enough.
o    It is better to stick to soothing nature scenes without actual animals in them
o    Water themes are popular but are deemed to cause health problems with babies according to Feng Shui principles
o    When decorating be guided by your own senses.  The baby's room is a place that should be relaxing, nurturing and soothing.  You will rock your baby in this room, you will bond with your baby in this room, you will play with the baby in this room, so when you close your eyes and imagine yourself rocking your baby to sleep what do you see?  Go with your instincts not what  someone else tells you is right.
o    Try to use as many natural fiber products as possible in bedding, drapes, pillow and rugs.
Do I need blinds - or should I let all the light I can in the room?
o    Babies are sensitive and they need a subtle combination of lighting - a perfect balance of yin and yang.  Warm soothing light in the morning, and quiet and restful lighting at night.  Blinds are a good option that would allow you to monitor the level of light that you let in.
o    Different sources of lighting should be available at different times of the day. Soft and night lights for the evening, Bright lights for dark rainy days, Good medium day time lighting
Do you have any other great tips?
o    Keep electrical appliances including telephones, baby monitors and alarm clocks away from the crib (at least 3 feet away from baby's head)
o    Essential oils in soft lavender, chamomile, rose or vanilla will soothe baby.
o    Soothing relaxing sounds are good for baby while sleeping whether it's a relaxing music cd, the soft ticking of a clock, a small soft fan or anything else that imparts calmness into the room.
o    In order to create good energy movement - place mobiles  or small soft wind chimes either near change table or by windows to encourage the flow of chi - never place the mobile above the baby's head as it is to stimulating.
The addition of a baby is truly a joy.  Take time and pleasure in designing your baby's new room  - after all not everyone is lucky to have such an miraculous opportunity!
© Copyright  2007 Fay Chapple
Fay Chapple is an International Feng Shui Expert and is Principal of the award winning Home & Life Design Firm Blue Avalon.
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Wednesday, January 07, 2015


Nuchal Translucency Screening is a prenatal test that measures the tissue at the back of the develping baby's neck.  In some disorders, this area appears thicker due to additional fluid.  I did not have this test since I had an amniocentesis, however, it may be a good alternative.  Read more:


Normal Results
A normal amount of fluid in the back of the neck during ultrasound means it is very unlikely your baby has Down syndrome or another genetic disorder.
  • A normal measurement at 11 weeks is up to 2 millimeters (mm).
  • A normal measurement at 13 weeks, 6 days is up to 2.8 mm.
What Abnormal Results Mean
More fluid than normal in the back of the neck means there is a higher risk of Down syndrome. But it does not tell for certain that the baby has Down syndrome.
If the result is abnormal, other testing can be done. Most of the time, the other test done is amniocentesis.

from medline

Monday, January 05, 2015


 There have been many studies and many articles written about artifical sweeteners and their affect on your overall health.  I'll admit, it can be confusing.  One study will say they are safe, and other studies will tell you to that they can cause life threatening illnesses.  However, when I was pregnant, I stayed away from all artificial sweeteners.  I did use a little sugar or honey on occasion, but only in moderation. This article explains more about how artificial sweeteners can affect your pregnancy:

What to Eat During Pregnancy: Saying No to Artificial Sweeteners

Guest Post By Isabel De Los Rios
If you are watching your weight after you conceive, you are probably wondering not only what to eat during pregnancy, but how to satisfy your sweet tooth. Obviously you are swearing off sugar if you want to keep your weight within the recommended weight gain range (between 20 and 30 pounds over the course of your pregnancy). So you may think that an acceptable way to keep your weight in check and indulge your cravings for sweets is to use an artificial sweetener.
But stop right there. Artificial sweeteners such as sucralose, saccharine, and aspartame are chemical substances that pose a range of troubling problems to both mother and child. They should be completely eliminated from your diet for pregnancy. Just what can these seemingly-innocent substances do? Let's delve further into the question of artificial sweeteners.


Sucralose (Splenda)
Sucralose, also marketed under the name Splenda, is one of the newest sugar substitutes on the market, and as such, there is no long-term research available on its effects on the human body. Sucralose is a chlorinated sucrose derivative and may be akin to ingesting small amounts of chlorinated pesticide. It cannot be completely broken down in our digestive tracts. Until more long-term research has been performed, we won't know its exact effects on our bodies.
Already, research performed on laboratory animals has given us some troubling insight into what Splenda can do. Studies have shown 40% shrinkage in the thymus glands as well as enlarged liver and kidneys. As your baby grows and develops within you, there is no need to subject him or her to the potentially dangerous health issues that sucralose use could cause.
Saccharine (Sweet N Low)
Saccharine is one of the older sugar substitutes on the market-maybe you remember your mother drinking Tab cola during the 1970s? Or perhaps you've seen those pink packets mixed in with the sugar on restaurant tables? Saccharine no longer carries warning labels about potential side effects from its use, but they are present just the same. Common reactions and side effects from using saccharine include eczema, wheezing, nausea, tongue blisters, headache, diarrhea, tachycardia, and sensory neuropathy.
Babies fed a formula with a saccharine sweetener showed the following symptoms: insomnia, irritability, and hypertonia. Why expose your baby to these potentially hazardous symptoms just to cut calories? Finding an all-natural sweetener and limiting its use is a much healthier idea.
Aspartame (Equal)
Aspartame is one of the most common artificial sweeteners on the market. It's the blue packet you see mixed in with the sugar at a restaurant. It's present in most diet sodas. But does its widespread use make it safe for pregnancy? Assuredly not! There are several neuropsychiatric disorders that have been linked to aspartame use, including panic attacks, mood changes, visual hallucinations, manic episodes, tachycardia, insomnia, vertigo, memory loss, and joint pain, among many other symptoms.
Aspartame has also been linked to triggering or worsening the following chronic illnesses: multiple sclerosis, epilepsy, chronic fatigue syndrome, brain tumors, lymphoma, mental retardation, Parkinson's disease, and Alzheimer's. If it can have this effect on adults, imagine the dangers it poses for your unborn fetus.
All-Natural Alternatives
You can satisfy your sweet tooth, watch your caloric intake and still keep your baby healthy if you seek out all-natural sugar substitutes. Stevia is now widely available in most stores and has no calories, so it's a great sugar alternative. You can also look for agave syrup and xylitol at your local health food store-these sweeteners have fewer calories than sugar and none of the troubling side effects of artificial sweeteners. You might also occasionally indulge in raw honey, which has the most calories, but also offers a range of health benefits for both mother and child.
Are you looking for the best advice for what to eat during pregnancy? Need advice about the proper diet for pregnancy? Visit The Diet Solution Program: What to Eat While Pregnant for exercise recommendations and eating tips for a healthy pregnancy.
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Saturday, January 03, 2015


Pregnancy Over 40, Symptoms

I really did have some symptoms in pregnancy that nobody ever told me about. This article talks about everything from balance to heartburn to itching. Read more:

Unpredictable Allergies

Seasonal allergies and asthma may become unpredictable during pregnancy. Stein tells WebMD some women see their symptoms improve, while others notice the opposite. She says expectant moms with asthma generally should continue using their inhalers. "If you don't breathe, your baby won't either."


Changes in Balance

In the third trimester, many women find they are perpetually off-balance. "This change happens later in pregnancy, but I notice very few women expect it," Stein tells WebMD. While a growing belly tends to throw off your center of gravity, there's more to it than that. "A hormone called relaxin kicks in toward the end of pregnancy," Stein explains. "Its main purpose is to loosen the pelvic joints so they are more flexible during labor. But this hormone also works on the hips, knees and ankles. This makes [expectant mothers] more wobbly and achy and likely to fall."

Abnormal Pregnancy Symptoms

With so many changes taking place in your body, you may be tempted to dismiss any new discomfort as normal during pregnancy. But certain symptoms could signal a serious problem:

* Bleeding or spotting - According to Lindsay, "bleeding or spotting is never felt to be normal during pregnancy." Spotting is common in the first trimester and probably not a cause for alarm. However, in the second and third trimester, bleeding could provide advance warning of a serious complication, such as preterm labor or problems with the placenta. Always report any bleeding or spotting to your doctor or midwife.
* Severe itching - In the late second and third trimester, severe itching may signal a rare liver problem that sometimes develops during pregnancy, known as intrahepatic cholestasis. "This condition requires increased fetal surveillance and early delivery," Lindsay says.
* Blurred vision, severe headaches and pain in the right side of abdomen - These symptoms, whether they occur alone or in combination, may indicate severe preeclampsia - the medical term for dangerously high blood pressure during pregnancy. "Women who experience any of these symptoms should contact their health care provider immediately," Lindsay advises. Early delivery may be necessary "to avoid life-threatening maternal and fetal complications."
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