Pregnancy Over 40, Success Comes With A Gag OrderI do recall when I finally conceived my daughter. I was extremely nauseated the entire first trimester (to the point that I couldn't leave the house).
But I couldn't complain because I finally had achieved my dream of becoming pregnant without miscarrying. In retrospect, I realize people who finally do conceive after infertility have the right to feel bad and get support, but you don't feel entitled because you been handed the winning lottery ticket. I recall when I ran an infertility support group, one of the members was apalled that her pregnant friend (who had also suffered from infertility and subsequently got pregnant) was complaining about some of her pregnancy symptoms. This article sums it up:
From the article:
You're in your first trimester, and you're nauseous 24/7. You dare not complain to a soul, however, for fear that you'll hear:
I told you so!
And you wanted to be pregnant sooo badly...
Can you believe you went through all of that to feel like this?
Or perhaps you're in your last trimester, and the only shoes that will go on your swollen feet are shower sandals, while your sciatica gives you such pain that the slightest movement brings tears to your eyes. After seven or more months, you've probably learned by now that not only do folks tire of hearing pregnant women complain, any kvetching on your part will probably be heard with even less understanding. After all, didn't you say that you'd never complain if you could only conceive?